How to Counter-Attack the Facebook Effect

Nowadays, everyone is on Facebook: Classmates, friends, family, celebrities, doctors, lawyers, wardens, teachers, judges, children and even pets. Facebook has become a materialistic competition platform, fairy tale romance publisher and not to mention a free counseling center where you can vent your personal soap operas to engage an audience.

For many, Facebook is still a primary means to keep up with those who matter most; to be in the loop of weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, class reunions, graduations and birth announcements. But the problem lies within the excess of “social mediaites” who force seemingly perfect status updates. Hence, when life is not going as planned for them, seeing others’ happiness displayed on walls delivers a blow to their self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence; and then Facebook becomes the devil.

If you find yourself measuring your worth against the success of others online, or you feel pressured to appear flawless because everyone else appears to be, here is what you need to do to build yourself up and focus on what matters most to experience a more enjoyable social media experience.

Fall Back

Since you’re sick of suffering from the sickening status updates of the seemingly always happy peeps, give yourself a break. Treat yourself to some mental and emotional relief by taking a break from Facebook, Twitter, blogs, and forums.  Utilize this time to focus on what’s going on in your life that you can’t really update your status to what you would like others to see. Be advised that no one lives a perfect life (except online). Don’t get so worked up about social media statuses of Facebook friends daydreaming out loud.

Change the Scenery

If you can’t seem to detach from social media long enough to regroup emotionally, try joining groups that entertain to your hobbies and interests. Through this channel, you can divert much of your attention to something positive that you can blog, tweet or post on your wall to include your friends in discussions other than whose personal life is the most envious.

Once you have recharged and pulled yourself together through activities that enhance your self-worth, you’ll find that Facebook is less draining. You’ll find that it is best to just read and respond (or not) to status updates than to feel as though you need to match up. And besides, if you’ve got enough going on in your life (good or bad) Facebook should be the least of your concerns.


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